In one of my previous posts, there were some comments and discussion about bringing more diversity to my blog and I'm all for it. I'm attracted to many different types of men. Sure, the "cookie cutter" model types are attractive, but I prefer "real men". That's why I find candid photos of men on the street, or in everyday situations, to be sexier than the posed "glamour shots" of shaved, chiseled hunks (not that there's anything wrong with those). I'd much rather peruse Flickr over a porn site any day!
Some people have a "type" or are only attracted to certain types of guys, but I find that extremely limiting. There are all types of sexy and when I see I man, I can often find something sexy or attractive about him. It could be his face or his body, but it could also be his sense of style, the way he dresses, or how he carries himself. I can spot an average looking guy and notice that he has large, well-manicured hands and then I find myself wondering how he might use them on me and how they would feel. That's sexy.
Some people automatically rule a guy out because he's heavy or fat, or because he's Black or Asian, or because he's old. "They're just not my type...I just don't find them attractive," they say, and that's fine for them. For me, I try to keep an open mind.
Over the years, I've been fortunate enough to experience men of different races, ages, and body types. Some of my hottest, most memorable sexual encounters have been with men who weren't stereotypically attractive, men who wouldn't warrant a second look from a lot of people. Still, there were times when I have been dismissive...but sometimes those men were persistent and I gave in. And to my (pleasant) surprise they turned out to be unexpectedly hot and sexy.
So, the next time you see a man who's not your type, see if you can find something, anything, about him that's attractive...something that's sexy.
You may surprise yourself...and he just may surprise you!
Try it...for those of you not into Black men, see if you can find anything about this gent that just might turn you on.
How do YOU define sexy?
For me it's a attraction vs attractiveness.
ReplyDeleteI'm not attracted to black men, but I find some attractive. Just like some would disagree with me on finding a white guy (just some random white guy) attracting, but they don't find find attractive.
There was this black porn star Sledge Hammer (he died because of police brutality) that always kept his socks and shoes on, and I love that about him -- besides of the things. I wasn't attracted to that part of him, but I would have gladly give it up for him...again and again and then some.
Then rest David Beckham. Some gays love that white boy, but I just don't see the attraction and I think he is too attractive. Hell, he's more beuatiful than Posh! HE should be in the Spice Girls! LOL
To me beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Sometimes I've seen men or women, yes, I am attracted to both but lately men are coming stronger. Anyhow, sometime you feel this crazy electrifying attraction towards people you least expected. Some guys might be a bit heavy but have a great face. To me the clothing they wear and specially the shoes makes an impact. I've seen very hot guys with great bubble buts that are pretty to look but boring to get to know. If the shoes are hot then I can handle it but if they are self centers jerks or bioches, forget it.
ReplyDeleteA great body is fun but a great personality plus a strong attraction make all the difference in the world.
So no Mather if the man is white, black, Latino, Asian, etc. If there is chemistry, then there is fire going.
Riderboy